Posted in Word Therapy

Social Media Fail

A couple of weeks ago I posted pictures of a hill that I was trying to conquer on a bike ride. I showed an uphill and a downhill shot. I followed it with a poll of which direction did followers think I took. After about an hour nobody had voted. And with that simple post, my anxiety was triggered, I deleted the post, and my “I don’t give a fuck” attitude took the kids to her sister’s:

As a writer I know in order for my book to succeed it can’t just be good. I have to be marketable. In order to be marketable, people need to know who the hell I am. That means accumulating followers. I recently made my Instagram profile public. Since then I have watched the number of my followers go up and down. I’m not the person who is going to follow you just because you followed me. Before the biking post I was doing stories the required three times/day. But when people start skipping the rest of your stories and don’t even vote in your polls, your feelings get hurt. You want to create entertaining content. You have to keep that “this is who I am, for better or worse” attitude. But sometimes those voices in your head become so loud that it is hard to ignore them and this is what your brain looks like:

Facebook is a whole other monster. I don’t accept a lot of friend requests because that has blown up in my face (knowing that you are a Trump supporter makes me just want to delete your friend request or unfollow you if we are already friends and I don’t have the patience to deal with the drama that comes with deleting you). As for Facebook’s security and their hand in the 2016 election, I honestly am not all up in arms. If you believed the fake stories that were being peddled during election season and that was enough for you to vote for dumbass in chief, WELL:

And let’s be honest. Facebook is not for millenials using social media. It’s for generations like mine who use it to post pictures of their kids for the grandparents, stay in touch with friends and family you don’t see in real life, and post cute animal videos to your spouse’s/best friend’s page.

Twitter is the social media platform I go to when I want to feel overwhelmed and stupid. I can barely come up with a succinct 280 character tweet and people are out there doing threads with 10+ tweets. Here’s my thought process when I try to tweet:

“Nobody cares.”

“Somebody’s going to try and argue/troll you and then you’re going to cry.”

“Oh forget it.”

So basically I am in the middle of a temper tantrum about not being popular on social media. I have calmed down a bit since the bike meltdown but right now it is doing more harm than good. Writing lifts me up and gives me confidence. I know I will eventually go back to posting like I used to. But that whole “nobody likes you” feeling is still strong, even if I know it’s irrational.

How do you feel about social media? Are you a dedicated poster? Or do you just like to browse and like?

Posted in Pop Culture

Women Crush Wednesday: Angela Kinsey and Busy Phillips

Angela Kinsey is an actress that played Angela Martin on the American version of The Office. Busy Phillips is an actress that was on Cougartown and Freaks and Geeks. I loved the shows they were on. They are both moms who live in Los Angeles. But these women are my crushes for their Instagram stories. It shows their actual personalities and gives an in depth look into their lives.

Angela is a working actress who is most famous for her role on The Office and is currently on Netflix’s Haters Back Off. I started following her on Instagram last summer after I read about her wedding to actor Josh Snyder. I was delighted to find out that she is the exact opposite of her character Angela. She is sweet, bubbly, and funny. Her stories consist of her flying back and forth from the Vancouver set of her show to her home in LA, spending time with her family, going to her favorite store Target, and hovering over the doughnuts at Craft Services. She even made somebody tearing her Eddie Bauer jacket while she was walking around Vancouver an endearing story that lasted a few weeks. And her best friend is Pam herself, Jenna Fischer. She is just a mom who loves her family and job that happens to be famous. She is relatable.

I discovered Busy on Cougartown. The show was silly but cute. Busy’s character was ditzy and always wore lively outfits. I followed Busy on Instagram because of the show but realized how cool she was when she started doing the stories. Her wardrobe is hipster chic, her nails always make me want to run to the salon, and her hair is always Coachella worthy. She does stories of her working out and sweating so bad I feel the need to workout harder, hanging out with pals Danny McBride and Colin Hanks, and going on a Disney cruise with her family for her parents 50th wedding anniversary. Most recently she was honest about how disheartening it was that her pilot for NBC didn’t get picked up. She is herself in a way that is refreshing for an actress who has been in the business for 20+ years. Add the fact that she is best friends with mega actress Michelle Williams and it doesn’t get much cooler than Busy Phillips.

Angela Kinsey and Busy Phillips are both hard working moms in the entertainment industry. They live their lives on social media so fans can catch a glimpse of their world. Their lack of self consciousness while showing their daily lives is something to look up to. It makes you feel as if they could be your friend.