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Does My Anxiety Make Me Type A or Does My Type A Personality Give Me Anxiety?

Happy New Year! (2 weeks late, I know I know) Instead of making New Year’s resolutions this year, I have made a to do list. As a Monica-from-Friends Type A personality, I love checklists and making my little checks, stars, or cross outs once I have completed a task, no matter how small. Instead of making a list of things I feel I “should” do, I want to do things that will keep me on Happiness Highway. This ranges from writing a book, to expanding my blog, getting outdoors more with my family, and letting go of what I can’t control.

I have written a couple of short stories, one young adult novel, and started/stopped many other tales in the 10+ years I have been writing. This year I am going to put my heart and soul into a children’s/tween book that has been taking up rent in my brain for a while. It is a fantasy with humans and animals interacting and takes place in a library (my home away from home). I am inspired by Neil Gaiman and Guillermo Del Toro and hope to incorporate their way of using darkness and fairy tale themes. This will definitely be geared towards the audience of Curls and Red but I hope I can pull the Pixar trick of making adults love it also.

I am now in my seventh year of this blog. As you can see we have gotten a new suit and tie (unless you are a new reader and to that I say Hi!). I will continue to write about: Staying ahead of my depression and anxiety, my family and the things we like to do in Southern California, pop culture, and politics. As for you the readers, I always want your feedback. Please tell me what you want to read more of and what you don’t. I will always try to stay positive here (there is so much negativity out there these days) but I have my bad days too and writing helps me work through it.

Now that my family and I have adjusted to our new surroundings in Orange County, we are trying to get outside more. We all have bikes and teaching the kids how to ride safely in a high traffic area has been a priority (my son is going to give me a heart attack before I hit my next birthday). We like to go to our local hiking trail that even has a lake. Being outdoors is great for my mental state, gets all of us off our electronics, and increases my love for Southern California weather. Taking our bikes to the beach and mountains is on the agenda in the next few months. We also want to go paddle boarding and kayaking this summer.

Letting go is in bold on my checklist for 2018. Prozac has helped me achieve this little by little. I watch my kids make their own decisions and I catch myself from saying, “But do this..” I realize each day that I am not here to walk them down my path but help them find their own. I have gotten better at accepting things I can’t change, which makes me lighter and more open to what life brings (my lord I have turned into such a hippie).

Today I am going to drop kick that anxiety across the football field of life and run toward my goal (posts). Hope you are kicking that Hump Day’s booty!

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Friday Favorites: We Survived 2017

The older I get, the more the cliché rings true: Time flies. For once, I am glad 2017 flew by. There is the government and its unending mission to destroy those who need help, numerous personal life changes, and my kids refuse to stop growing no matter what I say. I am grateful, lucky, and happy for many reasons. Below are my favorite movies, tv shows, and books of 2017. Are they are on your list? What were your favorites?

Favorite Movies:

Get Out-Get Out is on the short list to be an Oscar nominee for good reason. Jordan Peele directing, outstanding cast, and a story that will be burned into my brain forever. It scared the hot tea out of me with its brilliance.

It-I watched the miniseries of Stephen King’s It as a kid. I can still see Richard Masur’s severed head in the refrigerator. So when I saw the trailer for the movie version of King’s novel you would think (incorrectly) that I would run the other direction. I was all in for the delightful cast of kids (Finn Wolfhard as potty mouthed Richie made me giggle every time he talked), handsome-underneath-all-that-makeup Bill Skarsgard as insane clown Pennywise, and the dread I knew I would feel watching the film. It didn’t let me down or the full crowd that showed up for the 10 am showing on opening day.

Lady Bird-Greta Gerwig’s story of teen Christine “Lady Bird” McPherson made me want to run home and hug my daughter so tightly. I lost count of all the moments where I said to myself, “That is so going to be Scarlet and I.” Christine’s relationship with her mom Marion (Laurie Metcalf) is complicated, heartbreaking, and most of all, loving. Both actresses Sairose Ronan and Metcalf deserve Oscars.

The Shape of Water-On my short list of directors where I don’t need to see the trailer to want to see their new movie is Guillermo del Toro. Pan’s Labyrinth and The Orphanage are two of my go tos when I am asked to recommend a superb story with a dark twist. The Shape of Water is an adult fairy tale where every scene I felt like I was floating. Each shot is dreamy, Sally Hawkins is our princess, and del Toro’s long time collaborator Doug Jones is the fish man she falls in love with.

The Big Sick-Even when a movie makes my favorite list, that doesn’t mean I will be able to watch it over and over again. But with The Big Sick I know it will be added to the rotation of movies that I will find on a Saturday/Sunday afternoon, stop whatever I am doing, and watch the evolution of the love between Kumail (Kumail Nanjiani) and Emily (Zoe Kazan). It is based on the real life story between his wife and him. Its honesty will make you laugh and cry.

Favorite TV Shows:

Jane the Virgin-Still a (mostly) light, funny, and sweet show about writer Jane and her family, Telenovela style. Everybody is a standout but Jaime Camil as Jane’s father Rogelio steals every scene he’s in.

Gilmore Girls-I started bingeing this show about mother Loreli (Lauren Graham) and daughter Rory (Alexis Bledel) over the summer. I needed a show that I can have on with the kids around and something to balance all the dark stuff I watched. It’s portrayal of family is the most genuine one I have seen on television. Writers never try to make Lorelai’s relationship with her parents better to give its viewers all the feels. They also don’t take hard situations in the story lines and provide happy endings. My daughter has gotten hooked with me and I love that she gets to see a young girl who reads everything (just like her) and works hard become a Ivy League college student.

Favorite Books:

Little Fires Everywhere-This story of two very different families who are on opposite sides of a custody battle made me question my privilege and how it influences my decisions. Celeste Ng’s story was touted all over social media by all authors and is a Good Reads choice for 2017.

The Hate You Give-I continue to read, listen, and learn.

The Glass Castle-When I first tried to read this true story of Jeannette Walls I put it down because of how sad it was. But once I read that it was being made into a movie with Brie Larson, I gave it another shot. I finished it within a week, not allowing myself the patience of wanting to find out what happened to her family and their unconventional way of life.

I hope you have a go to list of things that make you happy and you get to enjoy them over the weekend. Thanks for reading!