Posted in Word Therapy

Bear with Me

Just like the relatives that you see once or twice a year, the old holiday depression demons showed up for Thanksgiving and this is what they had to say as they pushed their way through the door:

“Nobody reads this blog.”  But its been a year of frustration, hopelessness, and fear and you’ve had enough of Uncle Gerry and his racist and ignorant rants.  So you scream right in that demon’s disgusting, long nose haired, bald headed face and say, “Who cares, you are writing for yourself and for those that can relate!Your nosey ass aunt who nobody likes comes back with, “You’re self centered, writing about what you’re going through.  You should be writing about what brings people up, not what brings them down.”  So you hand your spouse your Rock Star and vodka, take a deep breath, and calmly state, “This is reality.  I am making a path to happiness and getting through the hard is how I will find it.”

You’ve cut a lot family and friends out of your life because you feel you have been treated poorly.  Then you think about how it has been a fair amount of people you have let go.  The nasty voices of bratty cousins taunt you with, “Can they ALL be wrong?”  Kind of like The Beatles.  They are beloved by gajillions of people all over the world.  How can that many people be wrong?  So you force yourself  out of your own head and say, “You are who you are, good and bad.  Maybe some of those people are a loss, maybe some of them aren’t.  All you can do is move forward and learn from your experiences.”

Social media shows that all your favorites (Etst, We Rate Dogs, Busy Phillips) make you laugh and bring you joy.  Why can’t you be more positive and happy?  But just like the warm blanket your favorite grandma made you, you are able to relax by saying that you will keep going, knowing you will get there eventually.

As much as you want to tackle and work through all of it quickly, you know that’s not how it works.  You are not a cold turkey kind of gal and know that anxieties need to be dealt with head on and honestly.

You decide to try a new habit.  Every day you are going to have a grateful thought for every negative one.  For example: You woke up with pain in your arms and hands.  Your legs still work fine so you get up, eat breakfast, and go for a run.  The endorphins kick in, your hands and arms feel better, and all of the thoughts you had while exercising find their way to paper.  It doesn’t fix everything but it’s a start.  There are plenty of people in the world who love you and are there for you.  Those who aren’t and the vile demons are insignificant.  Whether it’s the holidays or not, you are important and can achieve your dreams.  It can be hard to remember that with depression.  But that doesn’t make it any less true.

Posted in Pop Culture

Women Crush Wednesday: Angela Kinsey and Busy Phillips

Angela Kinsey is an actress that played Angela Martin on the American version of The Office. Busy Phillips is an actress that was on Cougartown and Freaks and Geeks. I loved the shows they were on. They are both moms who live in Los Angeles. But these women are my crushes for their Instagram stories. It shows their actual personalities and gives an in depth look into their lives.

Angela is a working actress who is most famous for her role on The Office and is currently on Netflix’s Haters Back Off. I started following her on Instagram last summer after I read about her wedding to actor Josh Snyder. I was delighted to find out that she is the exact opposite of her character Angela. She is sweet, bubbly, and funny. Her stories consist of her flying back and forth from the Vancouver set of her show to her home in LA, spending time with her family, going to her favorite store Target, and hovering over the doughnuts at Craft Services. She even made somebody tearing her Eddie Bauer jacket while she was walking around Vancouver an endearing story that lasted a few weeks. And her best friend is Pam herself, Jenna Fischer. She is just a mom who loves her family and job that happens to be famous. She is relatable.

I discovered Busy on Cougartown. The show was silly but cute. Busy’s character was ditzy and always wore lively outfits. I followed Busy on Instagram because of the show but realized how cool she was when she started doing the stories. Her wardrobe is hipster chic, her nails always make me want to run to the salon, and her hair is always Coachella worthy. She does stories of her working out and sweating so bad I feel the need to workout harder, hanging out with pals Danny McBride and Colin Hanks, and going on a Disney cruise with her family for her parents 50th wedding anniversary. Most recently she was honest about how disheartening it was that her pilot for NBC didn’t get picked up. She is herself in a way that is refreshing for an actress who has been in the business for 20+ years. Add the fact that she is best friends with mega actress Michelle Williams and it doesn’t get much cooler than Busy Phillips.

Angela Kinsey and Busy Phillips are both hard working moms in the entertainment industry. They live their lives on social media so fans can catch a glimpse of their world. Their lack of self consciousness while showing their daily lives is something to look up to. It makes you feel as if they could be your friend.